But it’s also a chance for all you brides out there to truly show you know that not everything is about you on your wedding day. That there really is another person involved (that would be the groom) who deserves a bit of recognition, too.
We’re talking wedding presents — specifically, yours to your husband-to-be.
Tradition does, indeed, hold that both you and he exchange gifts. And while it’s true that some guys are initially shocked to learn your engagement ring doesn’t also count as a “present,” that’s no excuse for you to waver.
“Giving him something that’s just for him will make him feel really special,” advises BrideBox.com. Continue reading →
When you’re engaged and jumping on the wedding planning train, advice will suddenly start to surround you. Every article you read online will be about wedding dos and don’ts and every friend and family member will try to feed you tips and tricks that they think you absolutely need to hear before it’s your turn to walk down the aisle. So when all of this advice is coming into your life, sometimes unwarranted, it’s important to recognize what advice is actually helpful and what advice should be, well, kicked to the curb. Want to know to spot terrible advice? Well, here are seven wedding planning tips you should 100% avoid. Continue reading →
Sometimes your squad (or your shrink) doesn’t have the answers. But your hairstylist might. Or your accountant. These professionals get a unique look inside relationships and what keeps ’em rock solid. That’s why we asked a few unexpected experts to give us their best advice. Listen up, folks—this could be game-changing!
A FINANCIAL PLANNER ON…TRUST
“Get comfortable with disclosure. Lay your cards out on the table and be transparent about short- and long-term goals and anything else that could impact your partner. When there’s nothing to hide, you can get to trust so much quicker.” —Shannah Compton Game, certified financial planner, yourmillennialmoney.com. Continue reading →
You know that feeling when you can sense a fight coming on with your partner? You get that knot in your stomach, your blood starts to boil, and your mind races. It’s okay to embrace the battle, according to relationship experts Dr. Judith Wright and Dr. Bob Wright — as long as you know what you’re really fighting about.
“Fighting is so good because your relationship is about growing and becoming the very best person you can become. Fights are one of your best tools for learning,” Judith tells GoodHousekeeping.com. “They’re servicing a lot of your unconscious gunk. They’re bringing problems up to the service. They’re letting you know what you care about, what you really desire, what you really yearn for deep inside. They’re teaching you so much.” Continue reading →
“Having shared interests and hobbies means that you will be spending intentional time together doing things you both enjoy,” explains Lesli Doares, marriage coach and author of Blueprint For A Lasting Marriage. “It isn’t about running the house or dealing with the dog. It’s about having fun together on a regular basis.” Continue reading →
While there are many secrets to getting along with the love of your life during the ugly and tense times, the number one thing you should embrace is the ability to just let stuff go. “You have to choose between being right or being happy,” says Claudia Six, Ph.D. “Happy couples let go of being right.” That good old “forgive and forget” mechanism is a majorly necessary component to any successful long-term relationship because it allows us to prioritize the future, instead of getting stuck in the past.
EIGHT HABITS COUPLES THERAPISTS SAY ALWAYS END A MARRIAGE
And no, having an affair isn’t on this list.
TALKING TRASH BEHIND EACH OTHER’S BACKS.
It might sound like advice on avoiding high school drama, but speaking in a mean-spirited way about your partner when he’s not around—not just poking innocent fun at his Star Wars obsession—is a red flag that, surprisingly, is pretty common, says Cole. And it could have a lot to do with your friends. “Women may fall into this habit if they’re surrounded by people doing the same thing,” she says. “If your close group of girl friends are constantly talking poorly about their own husbands, it may feel more normal for you to chime in and say, ‘You think yours is bad? Listen to mine.'” Continue reading →
What should you do if you don’t want to be a bridesmaid? What if you RSVPed yes to a wedding, and now you can’t make it? As a bride, are you required to give everyone a plus-one? Do you have to send handwritten thank-you notes, and how long do you have to do it? Clearly, attending—and throwing—a wedding doesn’t come without a million and one questions, many of which can veer into sticky, awkward, potentially friendship-ruining territory.
We talked to two pros—international etiquette expert Sharon Schweitzer, author and founder of Protocol & Etiquette Worldwide, and Michael Cerbelli, CEO and president of New York City wedding and event planning firm Cerbelli Creative, who worked on Billy Joel and Sir Paul McCartney’s weddings—to get their insight on the most fraught and sensitive wedding-related situations. Continue reading →
There’s a saying that the devil is in the details. And when it comes to wedding planning fights, that saying couldn’t be truer. “While you may argue about the big things, like the budget or venue, you’re likely going to bicker most often about the little things,” warns Amy Nichols, owner of and co-founder of The Poppy Group. “Recognizing early that even the small things require cooperation and consideration will help the wedding planning process flow much more easily.”
With that in mind, here are five little things that can lead to big wedding fights, and how to solve — or better yet, avoid — each one. Continue reading →
Perhaps the most attractive reason for having a backyard wedding is the fact that they can be so budget-friendly. “Maybe [couples] feel as if they can spend their money elsewhere and can achieve their Pinterest goals, rather than spending money on a [conventional] venue space,” said Sarah Campbell, owner and wedding planner at Pollyanna Events. Saving money on renting a traditional venue can free up a large chunk of the budget for things like decor, rentals, and catering. Continue reading →