While there are many secrets to getting along with the love of your life during the ugly and tense times, the number one thing you should embrace is the ability to just let stuff go. “You have to choose between being right or being happy,” says Claudia Six, Ph.D. “Happy couples let go of being right.” That good old “forgive and forget” mechanism is a majorly necessary component to any successful long-term relationship because it allows us to prioritize the future, instead of getting stuck in the past.
EIGHT HABITS COUPLES THERAPISTS SAY ALWAYS END A MARRIAGE
And no, having an affair isn’t on this list.
TALKING TRASH BEHIND EACH OTHER’S BACKS.
It might sound like advice on avoiding high school drama, but speaking in a mean-spirited way about your partner when he’s not around—not just poking innocent fun at his Star Wars obsession—is a red flag that, surprisingly, is pretty common, says Cole. And it could have a lot to do with your friends. “Women may fall into this habit if they’re surrounded by people doing the same thing,” she says. “If your close group of girl friends are constantly talking poorly about their own husbands, it may feel more normal for you to chime in and say, ‘You think yours is bad? Listen to mine.'” Continue reading →
I’m getting married on September 1st, but Christmas brings out my wildest wedding fantasies. I’m drawn to its technicolor lights, grand sense of tradition and elaborate ornamentation. Above all, the holiday spirit of togetherness magnifies what’s already supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life.
These amazing photos from real weddings submissions really speak for themselves. Enjoy—consider them a gift from us to you. Good luck to all of our holiday brides!
A look inside the latest digital dating phenomenon
There’s nothing wrong with being a bit of a hopeless romantic and believing that you might just bump into your soulmate on the sidewalk—but what if finding that person could be found through a social experiment? A new interactive website—that’s totally independent of any company and is completely free—called 8^8 wants to give people the chance to meet someone they would otherwise have a 1 in 16 million chance of meeting.
A ticker on the bottom of the site states that the test has been taken more than 236 thousand times and that nearly six thousand matches have been made. If we know how to use a calculator correctly, that’s a 2.5 percent success rate. Which is about 2.4 percent better than the odds of meeting your perfect match in that bar tonight, right?
We love this social experiment—why not give it a shot?!—but keep in mind that the project is about finding someone who answers identically to you. This means that your so-called soulmate could very well be in the form of a best friend and either gender—not necessarily someone who is compatible with you in a more complementary way. Your match, if made, is another you. But hey, that sounds like some good company to keep.