There is no denying how expensive weddings are: Even if you plan on having a low-key, relaxed wedding with just your closest family and friends, the price of everything will soon add up to an astronomical sum. So it’s no surprise that DIY weddings have rapidly grown in popularity. Brides and grooms (and their families) are now attempting to tackle every part of the wedding set-up and hosting themselves: Everything from the cake, to the invitations, to the bride’s bouquet are often now “homemade” in order to save money. But which parts of a wedding are really feasible to DIY… And which parts aren’t? Let’s have a look at the parts of a DIY wedding that should really be avoided, regardless of the cost. Continue reading
Cold feet are often taken as a no-good, very-bad sign that you should run as fast and far from your impending marriage as your feet (or car) will take you. But according to our experts, not all cold feet are signs your relationship is doomed. In fact, some, like these six, are perfectly normal. Continue reading
You spent a lot of time planning your wedding day. So it’s only reasonable that you want to actually enjoy it— especially in the moment. But stress and worry can take precedence over enjoying the fruits of your labor, warns Jaclyn Fisher, owner of Two Little Birds Planning, if you’re not careful to stay present . Continue reading
Sometimes your squad (or your shrink) doesn’t have the answers. But your hairstylist might. Or your accountant. These professionals get a unique look inside relationships and what keeps ’em rock solid. That’s why we asked a few unexpected experts to give us their best advice. Listen up, folks—this could be game-changing!
- A FINANCIAL PLANNER ON…TRUST
“Get comfortable with disclosure. Lay your cards out on the table and be transparent about short- and long-term goals and anything else that could impact your partner. When there’s nothing to hide, you can get to trust so much quicker.” —Shannah Compton Game, certified financial planner, yourmillennialmoney.com. Continue reading
By Kate Storey
FEB 2, 2016
You know that feeling when you can sense a fight coming on with your partner? You get that knot in your stomach, your blood starts to boil, and your mind races. It’s okay to embrace the battle, according to relationship experts Dr. Judith Wright and Dr. Bob Wright — as long as you know what you’re really fighting about.
“Fighting is so good because your relationship is about growing and becoming the very best person you can become. Fights are one of your best tools for learning,” Judith tells GoodHousekeeping.com. “They’re servicing a lot of your unconscious gunk. They’re bringing problems up to the service. They’re letting you know what you care about, what you really desire, what you really yearn for deep inside. They’re teaching you so much.” Continue reading
THESE 5 HOBBIES WILL STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
In any relationship, it’s important to enjoy time apart to pursue the things you individually love. But our experts say that creating shared experiences, via hobbies, can bond a couple together in incredible ways.
“Having shared interests and hobbies means that you will be spending intentional time together doing things you both enjoy,” explains Lesli Doares, marriage coach and author of Blueprint For A Lasting Marriage. “It isn’t about running the house or dealing with the dog. It’s about having fun together on a regular basis.” Continue reading
6 THINGS HAPPY COUPLES ALWAYS LET GO OF
While there are many secrets to getting along with the love of your life during the ugly and tense times, the number one thing you should embrace is the ability to just let stuff go. “You have to choose between being right or being happy,” says Claudia Six, Ph.D. “Happy couples let go of being right.” That good old “forgive and forget” mechanism is a majorly necessary component to any successful long-term relationship because it allows us to prioritize the future, instead of getting stuck in the past.
EIGHT HABITS COUPLES THERAPISTS SAY ALWAYS END A MARRIAGE
And no, having an affair isn’t on this list.
TALKING TRASH BEHIND EACH OTHER’S BACKS.
It might sound like advice on avoiding high school drama, but speaking in a mean-spirited way about your partner when he’s not around—not just poking innocent fun at his Star Wars obsession—is a red flag that, surprisingly, is pretty common, says Cole. And it could have a lot to do with your friends. “Women may fall into this habit if they’re surrounded by people doing the same thing,” she says. “If your close group of girl friends are constantly talking poorly about their own husbands, it may feel more normal for you to chime in and say, ‘You think yours is bad? Listen to mine.'” Continue reading
7 THINGS THAT REALLY IMPRESS WEDDING GUESTS
Yes, your wedding may be all about you, but as any good host or hostess knows, if your guests aren’t having fun, well, neither are you. To create an event that has everyone up on their feet, moving, grooving and having the time of their lives, try incorporating a few of these crowd-pleasing elements and wedding planning ideas into your big day. Trust us; they’re guaranteed to not disappoint! Continue reading
20 WEDDING ETIQUETTE QUESTIONS, ANSWERED BY PROS
What should you do if you don’t want to be a bridesmaid? What if you RSVPed yes to a wedding, and now you can’t make it? As a bride, are you required to give everyone a plus-one? Do you have to send handwritten thank-you notes, and how long do you have to do it? Clearly, attending—and throwing—a wedding doesn’t come without a million and one questions, many of which can veer into sticky, awkward, potentially friendship-ruining territory.
We talked to two pros—international etiquette expert Sharon Schweitzer, author and founder of Protocol & Etiquette Worldwide, and Michael Cerbelli, CEO and president of New York City wedding and event planning firm Cerbelli Creative, who worked on Billy Joel and Sir Paul McCartney’s weddings—to get their insight on the most fraught and sensitive wedding-related situations. Continue reading