You can’t please everyone! When it comes to weddings especially, this statement couldn’t be truer. No matter how hard you try or what precautions you take, there are bound to be a few yawn-inducing moments in every big day (yes, even at the best of them).
So what tends to bore guests to tears then? We went straight to the source to find out. Moral of the story: anything that requires people to pay attention without eating or socializing for too long won’t win the crowd.
TONS OF TRADITIONAL DANCES
“The billion dances they do! The first dance, father daughter, mother son, grandparents, money dance, bridal party dance, etc., etc. Usually by the time they’re done my buzz has already worn off.” — Candace Continue reading →
“There is no way I’m getting married until I’m at least 30,” I declared to my two best friends during one of our weekly sleepovers in high school. At the time, I associated marriage with settling down, sacrificing personal goals and getting on with the business of having kids. Fast-forward just three short years and those two girls were standing beside me at my wedding.
In the course of those three years, I learned a lot about myself and what I wanted in a partner. It just so happened that I connected with my person a few years ahead of my planned timeline. Suddenly the thought of getting married young wasn’t so bizarre to me — but rather, it actually seemed to be the best option for us. Continue reading →
“When something weird happens, my guy is always the first one I want to text.” –Erin W., Highlands Ranch, CO
Seeing your guy as your person – the one you want to share gossip or funny observations with – is essential, say Charles and Elizabeth Schmitz, psychotherapists and authors of Building a Love That Lasts. “Good couples tend to view their partner as their best friend,” says Charles. “Having inside jokes and stories is part of what builds that bond.” That’s why it’s key to share funny anecdotes about your day, even if they’re as minor as your coworker freaking out because someone stole her Diet Coke from the communal fridge. Continue reading →
If you think there’s no sign short of a diamond ring that can point to whether you’re headed for marriage or not, think again. Our experts are here to share eight ways you can tell if your relationship will last a lifetime. Continue reading →
Is marriage on your horizon? Do you love the Disney theme parks almost as much as you love your fiancé? Imagine this fantasy scenario: It’s your wedding day, and you ride up Main Street U.S.A. in Cinderella’s horse-drawn carriage accompanied by bewigged, royal coachmen. A vintage jitney has already deposited your husband-to-be at the Magic Kingdom’s hub. Trumpeters herald your arrival, and your wedding guests stand. You make your way to the altar in a lush garden with the majestic Cinderella Castle rising behind you. Continue reading →
Almost a century ago, an Illinois bride cracked open her wedding diary. The thin, white-cloth covered book had empty pages where a bride could record the details of her nuptials. There was a page to describe how the couple met, another to note the engagement, and several to paste in the engagement announcements.
The bride, 18-year-old Marjorie Gotthart, was seemingly unimpressed with the book. She completed only one page – a form designed to resemble a marriage certificate. In big, loopy cursive, she recorded who she married, when, and where. The rest of the pages were empty. Continue reading →
Writing your own vows is an incredible way to personalize your wedding ceremony. It’s a chance to tell your story, give guests a peek into what makes your relationship tick, and to share meaningful, sweet words with the person you love. It can also be a pretty challenging task because it’s so intimate — you’re really baring your heart to your fiancé, and you’re doing so in front of your family and friends. The hardest part? Getting started! Thankfully, JP Reynolds, M.Div., celebrity officiant (you might recognize the name from BRIDES Live Wedding), counselor, and author of Ever Thine, Ever Mine, Ever Ours: Choosing the Right Words for Your Vows, is an all-around ceremony expert, and has shared a few tips for putting together vows that are deep, poignant, and from the heart.
WRITE YOUR VOWS DOWN.
“Your wedding ceremony is an out-of-body experience,” says Reynolds. “You’ll barely remember it (and you’ll be lucky if you remember your own name!), so make sure you’ve got your vows written down instead of trying to memorize them.” You might want to make a few copies, giving one set to your officiant, one to the best man, and one to your wedding planner. Continue reading →
Bachelorette parties can be a blast, but a large, random group, poorly planned festivities, or an unhappy bride-to-be can turn a fun night into a total disaster. One of the easiest ways to ensure a great time? Think ahead. Learn these common bachelorette party mistakes so that your next round of festivities is all smiles and smooth sailing.
To avoid any hurt feelings, it’s important to go over the guest list with the bride-to-be. When it comes to who should or shouldn’t be invited – from relatives to random friends – she knows best. Plus, she’ll be able to help organize the rooms so that everyone feels comfortable within the group. Continue reading →
Gone are the days where a simple text could cause you to doodle your new married name in a notebook — and think that is your forever person. As adults, we need real signs we’re with someone we should marry. So here, our experts divulge five ways to judge you’re dating a guy or gal who means married business.
YOU CAN COME BACK FROM A FIGHT.
It’s not a good sign of you bicker nonstop. But, when you engage in an argument, you can each recover — and are more open to the other’s needs — you’re in good shape to say “I do,” according to our experts. “Couples often struggle when their partner goes into a more primitive fight-and-flight response,” describes David Klow, LMFT at Skylight Counseling Center in Skokie, Illinois. “If your partner knows how to stay open and present, rather than shut down, then you have good chance of making it through tough times. At the very least, if he or she knows how to call a time out and return later to the conversation, then that is a very good sign.” Continue reading →
Whether it’s a call on the drive home from work or a pow-wow in the kitchen as soon as you both walk in, a quick check-in with your spouse will get you both on the same page. ‘Sometimes it is planning coordination for which kid is going where and other times it is catching up on what’s going on in both of our worlds,’ say Melissa and Aaron Sauser, of Minneapolis, Minnesota.
LAUGH A LITTLE
Turn on the comedy channel, tell a joke, or buy a cartoon-a-day calendar, and then share the giggles. ‘There is nothing like the unity that comes when you are both laughing together about the same thing at the same time,’ say Amy and Vaughan Nelson, of Lacey, Washington. The key to a great laugh fest? ‘It can’t be at the other person’s expense!’ Amy adds. Continue reading →